In relationship violence, one partner tries to gain control over the other through aggressive and passive aggressive abusive behaviors. The abuse can be physical, emotional, sexual, financial, verbal or a situation where a partner stalks the other via texts or social media. No matter the type, the abusive behavior is repeated and usually escalates over time. Approximately one in three teens have experienced some form of relationship abuse, including dating violence. Teens that have experienced dating violence are more likely to do poorly in school, binge drink, attempt suicide and physically fight. It is important for teens, especially young women, to develop a dating safety plan and to get educated about common signs and red flags. It is vital to help teens to develop healthy boundaries.
Warning Signs For Relationship Violence:
- Checking your cell phone or email without permission
- Constant put-downs
- Extreme jealousy or insecurity
- Explosive temper
- Financial control
- Isolation from family or friends
- Mood swings
- Actual or threatened physical harm
If you are a teen involved in a violent or abusive relationship, remember that you cannot make your partner change, and in time the abuse will get worse. It is important to talk to a safe adult who can intervene. Talk therapy can help to address any issues of depression, anxiety and stress that are a result of the violence.