Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. Everyone has the right and ability to feel angry from time to time. Some people get angry when they have too much stress, anxiety, or frustration and expressing anger can be a normal way of letting go of these feelings. However, uncontrolled anger (low frustration tolerance) can be destructive to the person experiencing it and to those around them. It can lead to physical and verbal aggression, destruction of property, and it can negatively impact physical and emotional health. Uncontrolled expressions of anger can also cause problems in relationships with family and friends as well as negatively affect school functioning and performance.
Warning Signs of Excessive Anger:
- Disproportionate anger to the situation
- Difficulty calming down or thinking logically
- Body symptoms such as heart racing, muscle tension, clenched fist or jaw
- Physical reactions such as hitting, throwing things, slamming doors, destroying property
A counselor can help a client recognize the things that trigger anger, how to respond to those triggers and to better understand the effect that their anger has. A counselor will also help to integrate different strategies to deal with anger including; relaxation, cognitive therapy to change distorted thoughts, and skill development such as learning better communication or social skills.