Bullying involves unwanted aggressive behavior where there is an imbalance of power and this behavior is repeated over time. The aggression can be verbal, physical, or done more subtly in relationships, and it causes another person intentional injury or discomfort. The bullying can occur face to face or through the use of technology such as the internet. The victim does nothing to cause the bullying but it has very serious effects nonetheless. Children who have been bullied can feel helpless, afraid, lonely, isolated, angry and even suicidal. They may have difficulty concentrating in school or skip school to avoid the bully. They also may develop other serious health and mental health problems such as depression and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
“Defined by Dictionary.com as, “the act of harassing someone online by sending or posting mean messages, usually anonymously”, cyberbullying comes in many forms. It affects adolescents the hardest, but also all age groups.
The effects of cyberbullying can be dire, leading to ostracization and mental trauma.” (Alarms.org)
Warning signs of bullying:
- Physical aggression or threats of physical aggression
- Destroying property, stealing
- Making someone do something they do not want to
- Teasing, name-calling, verbally abusing
- Refusing to talk or excluding someone from activities
- Spreading rumors or lies
- Inappropriate sexual comments
For a child that has been bullied, treatment focuses on addressing any depression, anxiety, or PTSD that has resulted from the bullying. The counselor may use techniques to strengthen self-esteem, combat any distorted beliefs, problem-solve ways to handle the situation, and encourage involvement in activities where the child feels like they belong. A child or teen who has exhibited bullying behavior may benefit from anger management, talk therapy, or an aggression replacement training group.
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